Pity: the feeling of sorrow and compassion caused by the suffering and misfortunes of others
Empathy: the ability to understand and share the feelings of another
It’s a subtle difference but it is there. I don’t need you to feel sorry for me but I do need you to try and understand and to try and support us in our journey.
Pity: “I can’t imagine how hard this is for you – you must find it so painful to even carry on trying”.
Empathy: “I am sorry you have to go through this and I am sure it isn’t easy to keep trying”.
See the difference?