“It was an oops”, “Announcing a whoops”, “ We weren’t really trying” or my personal favorite “We weren’t trying but we weren’t not trying” (Is that even a proper sentence?! Because it doesn’t even make sense!). These statements are coming from adults who clearly failed sexual education in elementary school. Did you have unprotected sex? If so, you should understand that could result in a baby.
These are also really hard statements for couples with infertility to hear. We have been trying (and for goodness sake I do mean trying) and planning and preparing. Money has been saved, books read – heck, even a shortlist of names made. In our case it also includes tests, drugs, needles and a whole heck of a lot of emotion. And nothing. It’s hard to understand how people approach such a journey with such a laissez-faire attitude. And it is even harder to understand how these are the people for whom it always works out. Why you and why not me? Why not both of us?
If you are thinking about trying or if you are just begining your journey, start with your cycle. A regular cycle (25-30 days, 28 is apparently “ideal”) is important. If you don’t have a regular cycle, you won’t know when you are ovulating. If you don’t know when you are ovulating, well then the rest of it is really hard. I don’t think a regular cycle is stressed enough in our health classes. I know a lot of women who don’t/didn’t have regular cycles and had no idea it would have such an impact on their fertility. It can be an indicator of so many fertility issues – and most women have no idea.
I talked about ovulation sticks on my last post, but those work best if you know how long your cycle is. If you don’t have a regular cycle and you have some money to burn, you can try the Clearblue Fertility monitor (there might be others but this is the one I am familiar with). You pee daily (every morning) and it monitors how close you are getting to ovulating by measuring your lutenizing hormone (LH). If you aren’t familiar with “LH”, don’t worry you will be soon.